Friday, May 28, 2010

9 months

Princess Eli is 9 months today!

My sweet Angel is growing way to fast and I am savoring everytime I hold her and she lays her head on my shoulder!

Thursday, May 27, 2010

it's the little things in life

I used to always to compare our marriage to our dating relationship. I would think to myself, he always did all these great things for me when we were dating. He would write me super nice notes and surprise me with fun gifts.

I would hear women say "Yea get used to it once your married all those nice things stop."

The problem is that I was so focused on what he wasn't doing anymore, that I totally missed that I had stopped doing all those things too!

I am ashamed to admit that I had stopped doing all those little things that say your my man, my best friend, and you come first!After all it;s the little things that really say I Respect you and love you more then anyone else!

I started looking at King Los as my best friend again and started trying to remember when he said things like "I love this.", "This is my favorite." and, "I don't like this.".

Maybe your like me and you have a terrible memory and you need to jot stuff down. Even small things. Like the fact that King Los takes the trash out for us. To save money I always buy the cheapo bags. He hates them! So since hes so kind why not spend a little extra money and buy some that won't break open on the way to the end of the drive way. Maybe surprise him with his favorite candy or write a note and put it in his lunch.

Did you forget the little things that your man always appreciated when you were dating?

Monday, May 24, 2010

what would happen if?

In Saudi Arabia the country stops to pray five times a day!

I wonder how how much closer to the Lord I would be if I just took some time on my knees before Princess Eli woke up, during her nap, and after she went to bed. Even if it was just ten minutes. Instead of only taking time once a day to really kneel before the lord!

Knock Knock. Whos there? Just me bad mouthing my man

Today as I asked God where to start with this series I wrote a list of things down I feel played the biggest part in me nearly destroying my marriage. Two things I realized is, there is a lot of them, and I still have a long way to go in a lot of areas. So please just except this from someone humbled by her mistakes that would like to encourage other women with her story.

Don't you hate the phrase, "No offense."! As soon as those words come out of a persons mouth you can be sure whatever they are about to say will offend you. But what about "Just joking around."? If we say that phrase does that mean we get off the hook because we are just having some fun? Or what about "I'm just being honest."?

As women we so often fall into the category of degrading our husbands without evening realizing we are doing it. We think its all in good clean fun because we are just sitting around having a laugh with our friends.

"It's so annoying my husband won't keep his hands off of me!"

"You know how he is, if you don't ask him a million times he won't do it. I am better off just doing it myself."

"Yea right! My husband write me a romantic note. That would be the day!"

"Oh you know him the only thing he ever has time for is the things he wants to do."

BUT, you say, that's just between us girls and we always laugh you know it's so funny to swap stories about how messy are husbands are.

But, is it funny to them?

What if their conversations went like this....

"It's so annoying my wife is never in the mood."

"I get sick an tired of excuses for why the house isn't always cleaned up when I get home from work."

"Yea right! My wife wear something sexy for me? She barely remembers to brush her hair before I get home from work!"

If we ever heard our husbands sitting around joking about us like that we would be furious, embarrassed, and hurt. We don't want all our short comings laid out there for everyone to see like that. We certainly don't want to be a joke!

I am afraid I have been involved a few to many times in these kinds of conversations and embarrassingly enough I honestly thought it wasn't a big deal.

Now I see part of respecting our husbands is honoring them with our mouths...

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5:33

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
Colossians 4:6

My pray is for me to continue to realize that this kind of joking is not appropriate and certainly does not show respect to our husbands!

Your hubby should feel like he is respect by your friends not a joke to them!

Sunday, May 23, 2010

How I almost destroyed our marriage.....

If you know me in the "real world", you know I am an advocate for marriage. I am one, because of what I have done and been through. God is restoring our marriage and I am ever grateful that God opened my eyes to the things I was doing before I nearly ended our marriage. No matter how hard it was!

I just really feel God leading me to share, encourage, and stand along side other women to fight for our marriages! This is a battle ladies and we need to not take it lightly So, I thought maybe by me sharing some of my story, just maybe someone out there could relate and would have their eyes opened.

So please continue to read as I share some of my journey and hopefully you too will be inspired to fight for your marriage and be the change you want to see in your husband!

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

I'm a chicken

Yes it's true, quite often I am a chicken.

Afraid of what ifs.

All those thoughts that can buzz around inside your head like a pesky Nat.

What if my husband stops loving me? What if my husband or children die? What if I am not a good enough mother? What if my children grow up and do not end up following the lord? What if someone thinks I am crazy for...? Ect.....

I was reminded again today by Beth Moore in her series on Esther that what ifs stands for what I Fear.

So true! Those what ifs are just fears that if we don't give them to the lord can drive us crazy or cause us to not follow the path the lord has laid out for us.

Oh how I want to follow what the Lord desires for me. I don't want to miss out on oppurtunites because I am afraid of what people will think of me or if I will fail.

So I want to give the lord the what ifs and trust in him and his plan for me because....

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Jeremiah 29:11

and because I know fear causes me to not always be obedient.

But Samuel replied: "Does the LORD delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the voice of the LORD ? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams.
Samuel 15:22

Thursday, May 13, 2010

My College days

Some days I have to admit I do wonder what my life would be like if I had chosen to go to college rather then get married and stay at home with princess Eli.

I love to learn and I loved my job!

But, I got to thinking these are my college days......

Late nights. Check! King Los needs clean underwear and socks for work tomorrow. Need to make sure he has stuff to take in his lunch.

Mommy Hangover. Check! That's what happens when you have been up several times a night with your little one and then they still get up at 6:30. This comes complete with pounding headache.

Studying. Check! Finding new recipes. Reading about ways to organize my home better. Reading about eating healthier and of course most importantly studying the bible!

Attending sports events. Check! King Los has many sporting events for me to attend. As a matter of fact I may actually attend more then a college student does.

Eating junk food. Check! Hey, sometimes I don't have time to cook. O.K. maybe I just don't always feel like making a meal.

Living off hardly any money. Check! One income enough said! Ha!

So when you look at like this, I really haven't missed anything. Instead I am obeying my Savior in what he has called me to do and I am finding true joy!

Yep these are my College days and I am loving every moment of them!

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

its not thursday but i am so thankful

Its rainy and dreary outside. My worst kind of day.

But being a mom is my best kind of day!

This time goes by so fast. Lets enjoy every moment of it!

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Sunday.. just another day of the week?!

Recently God asked me a question.

Do you really know what it means to remember the Sabbath and keep it holy?

I wanna blog about this but, first I wanted to hear some feedback from you guys.

What do you do on sundays? Do you go to church but otherwise it's the same as any other day of the week? Is it a day about family and friends? Maybe, you take time that day to really rest and relax before another long week of work. Any cool traditions you and your family do every Sunday or things you never do on sundays?

I just really am curious to know, what Does the Sabbath mean to you and your family?

Friday, May 7, 2010

Rockin the Mini Van

... This goes out to all the hip mommas rockin the mini vans!

Someday I hope I can be as cool as you!

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Praise him in the morning and in the afternoon

tonight at the youth national day of prayer rally we all broke up in small groups and had people pray for each other.

We had to say issues we were struggling with and then pray for each other.

I of course said pray for me and my stuggle to stop complaining.

Britteny a sweet girl in the youth group prayed for me. While I listened to her words, God spoke to me.

She said about it being human nature to want to complain but yet we have WAY more things to be thankful for then to complain about.

Then it was like God said.....

If you spend more time praising you won't have time to complain!

It is good to praise the LORD and make music to your name, O Most High,to proclaim your love in the morning and your faithfulness at night to the music of the ten-stringed lyre and the melody of the harp. For you make me glad by your deeds, O LORD;I sing for joy at the works of your hands. How great are your works, O LORD,
how profound your thoughts!
Psalms 92:1-5

So I am sifting my focus on to praising more and in return hoping that that helps to keep me from complaining so easily.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Birthday and complaints

Sorry I have been missing. Thursday was my birthday!

Then we headed to the beach for the weekend and had a BBQ sunday.
It was super warm and super fun!

But I wanted to share with you my focus for may.
I am going to call this....
May Minus the complainin.

I don't know if you are like me in the area of complaining, but I do it way to often.

Especially to poor King Los.

So I am going to focus on this verse for the month of may.

Do everything without complaining or arguing.
1 Corinthians 2:14

I just find myself complaining to easily. I want to change that!

So here goes!