Monday, May 24, 2010
Knock Knock. Whos there? Just me bad mouthing my man
Today as I asked God where to start with this series I wrote a list of things down I feel played the biggest part in me nearly destroying my marriage. Two things I realized is, there is a lot of them, and I still have a long way to go in a lot of areas. So please just except this from someone humbled by her mistakes that would like to encourage other women with her story.
Don't you hate the phrase, "No offense."! As soon as those words come out of a persons mouth you can be sure whatever they are about to say will offend you. But what about "Just joking around."? If we say that phrase does that mean we get off the hook because we are just having some fun? Or what about "I'm just being honest."?
As women we so often fall into the category of degrading our husbands without evening realizing we are doing it. We think its all in good clean fun because we are just sitting around having a laugh with our friends.
"It's so annoying my husband won't keep his hands off of me!"
"You know how he is, if you don't ask him a million times he won't do it. I am better off just doing it myself."
"Yea right! My husband write me a romantic note. That would be the day!"
"Oh you know him the only thing he ever has time for is the things he wants to do."
BUT, you say, that's just between us girls and we always laugh you know it's so funny to swap stories about how messy are husbands are.
But, is it funny to them?
What if their conversations went like this....
"It's so annoying my wife is never in the mood."
"I get sick an tired of excuses for why the house isn't always cleaned up when I get home from work."
"Yea right! My wife wear something sexy for me? She barely remembers to brush her hair before I get home from work!"
If we ever heard our husbands sitting around joking about us like that we would be furious, embarrassed, and hurt. We don't want all our short comings laid out there for everyone to see like that. We certainly don't want to be a joke!
I am afraid I have been involved a few to many times in these kinds of conversations and embarrassingly enough I honestly thought it wasn't a big deal.
Now I see part of respecting our husbands is honoring them with our mouths...
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
My pray is for me to continue to realize that this kind of joking is not appropriate and certainly does not show respect to our husbands!
Your hubby should feel like he is respect by your friends not a joke to them!