Thursday, June 24, 2010

Say it then pray it.....

I don't know why it took my so long to write this post. I guess mostly because this is the one I struggle with the most.

I talked a lot in my last post about the awful things we can say to hurt our husbands to try and "change" their minds. But, what about the things we say that aren't disrespectful but are said over and over again?

Better to live in a desert then with a quarrelsome and ill tempered wife. Proverbs 21:19

"The Nag" a man's worst nightmare. The women who goes on and on about what they need to change. How they paid bills late again this month and won't you ever learn to throw your socks in the hamper?! The wife that thinks she needs to say it a couple hundred times because if he didn't change or stop right away he clearly didn't understand. This means it needs to be stated again and again until he changes. (Wrong!)

Why is it that we think we have a right to always be telling him the areas he is failing in? Making him feel as if he can never measure up or expecting him to change over night.

How many times do us women continue to do the same mistakes over and over again? Yet, if you hubby is like mine he continues to forgive and doesn't nag.

A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind, or like grasping oil with the hand.
Proverbs 27:15-16

I don't know about you but that sure doesn't sound like the women I want to be. So that is why I came up with this motto. Say it then pray it! I remember my granny saying something a long those lines to me. You can't change a person by persistent nagging. Thats only annoying! But, what if we spoke kindly and respectfully sharing our concern and then we took it to the lord. He is after all the only one who can really change someone!

Say it then pray it! It so much harder then it sounds but im determined to continue to work at it!

Monday, June 14, 2010

I've been eating to much bread

I could really write all kinds of excuses today for my life right now.But, really the truth is I have NOT been in the word like I should be lately.

If you want to know how I am doing spiritually just come take a look at my house. It never fails that when I am in the word and fellowshiping with the lord I am a better wife, mommy, and housekeeper. Without the lord I Only eat of the bread of idleness.

She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27

I am Lazy! I need to be in the Lord's word everyday in order to keep me in check. I need to be reminded of my role and I need to remember all the things the lord has done for me. If I do not, I eat way to much bread of idleness.

I am determinded no matter my excuses and that I am sick because of the wonderful little peanut growing in my belly that I will not continue to eat to much bread! I am going to work hard to stay in the word and be sitting at the throne of my father!

The Lord does not want excuses he wants action!

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Exciting News!

I can't wait to get back to my posts on how i almost destroyed my marriage but i've been a little tired, and not feeling the greatest.

and thats because....

We are going to be having another baby!!

At first I was shocked and scared. This wasn't our two year plan! But, now I am so excited!

So I will resume my regular posting tommorrow!

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Raising Homemakers

I'm not going to lie I am pretty excited about raising homemakers and it's not just because miss Sarah Mae is the genuis behind it.

I really wanna raise my daughter to know how to make a home and keep a home!
So this site is going to have such vaulable info for me! So if you are like me and want to hear helpful tips and information about how to raise our daughters up to be home makers make sure you stop by the site! While your there make sure you check out their cool giveaway!

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

my words a weapon of mass destruction...

Let me tell you nuclear weapons have nothing on the power of words.

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Proverbs 18:21

This by far is more of a confession then words of wisdom because this is the area I have struggled the most in and still have to work so hard at. But yet this I believe is one of the areas that most often destroys marriages. When in the heat of anger we say things to "show" our husbands how their actions are hurting us. Except that by saying these awful things it doesn't show them that what they are doing is wrong instead it turns their hearts from us.

Why is it that we think by reminding our husbands how awful they are at helping with the kids or remembering to take out the trash, we think this will somehow change their hearts.

We think we are our husband's conscience, but we are not! We are their help meets.
It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a help meet suitable for him".Genesis 2:18

As women we were blessed with insight. Unfortunately we often use this as a weapon instead of a tool to love on our husbands.

We are so quick to find the faults in our husbands and forget we have our own!

I am ashamed to look back and think of those awful things I would often to say to "show" my husband he was doing things wrong. I know that those words were a marriage killer.

The worst part is that with just one bad sentence you can undo weeks worth of wonderful loving things you said to your husband. Because it's those words that stick in their brain and computes to them that they are a failure.

Apologizing is necessary but once words are spoken you can NEVER take them back and you cannot undo the pain they have caused.I know our husbands often act as if the words we saw do not hurt them but they do!

When we speak these hurtful disrespectful things about them being childish, unloving, bad with money, and not a good enough father, we emasculate them!

.... To be continued.