A little girls dream?

Feminism is a huge problem in our world today. I just wasn't aware it was such a big problem in our churches.

As I watch all the teenage girls stress over their plans for the future. I realize that at school and sometimes at home, College is the only option.

If you want to be a home maker later in life that is fine but for now you must attend college.

I wonder if/when they chose to become a homemaker will they even know the basics of running a home?

How is it possible when they spend so much time on homework, extra curriculars, and everything else they need to have in line before college. (Not to mention that they have to work to be able to save up money to pay for college.)

The number one prayer requests at my church for Teenage girls (especially seniors) is, pray for what to do about college and their future.

I remember as a little girl my dream was to get married and have children.

I wonder do girls even have that dream anymore?

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... That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:5

Time off

Sorry for the time off here at the castle... but there is so much going on right now... most things i cannot really talk about here and poor princess Eli is coughing up all kinds of mucus and has pink eye. Sometimes we don't understand why the lord allows us to go through what we do but we have to hold and have faith. Until things calm down a little around here and i can get my anxiety a little better under control i am having so more time off... so maybe see ya Monday we shall see! I just know right now i need to be spending most of my time in the word and with the lord because I am being attacked from all sides.

a wifes duty

“It was a wife's duty to be interested in whatever interested her husband, whether it was politics, books, or a particular dish for dinner.”
Eleanore Roosevelt

..... “It IS a wife's duty to be interested in whatever interestes her husband, whether it is politics, sports, or a particular dish for dinner.”
Queen Los

The road less traveled...

Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it. Matthew 7:13-14

It's not always easy taking the road less traveled....

It's just not fair

Kind:of a friendly, generous, or warm-hearted nature; Forbearing and tolerant; Showing understanding. (Here we go with the understanding word again!)

This one plays into pretty much every other commandment in this verse. So i am not going to go into a lot of detail on this one. Just remember that it means forbearing and tolerant! ( I know i need to remember that!)



Jealous:Painfully desirous of an others advantages; Refers to negative thoughts; Apprehensive of losing affection or position.

Envious: The feeling of wanting to have something else possessed by another.

It's not always easy to not envy our husbands "freedom". I hate to admit this but i sometimes grow weary of all my responsibilities of being a wife and mom. I want to complain and say "It's not fair!".

Men they can't nurse babies. So every 2 or so hours when your little one wakes up to eat you have to get up and feed them while your hubby is sound asleep. I am guilty of waking up a time or too and thinking, ugh I wish I didn't have to get up yet. I just wish for once he could get up and feed the baby.

Then there is the times when we have been home with the kids all day. The baby has been crying non stop and nothing in the house got done. We think to ourselves he is so lucky to go out and get a break. But, most of all there is that time when he has to work late or goes out for an evening of sports. You just maybe think to yourself, this is so unfair i am the one who really needs a night out.

Or, maybe for you it is the constant feeling of the house work that never ends and the kiddos and hubby that always need you.

But, we forget something very important. Our wonderful husbands are under a lot of pressure to provide and lead our families. The decisions rest on their shoulders and lots of other responsibilities we take for granted. How quickly we forget the lifetime of work they have to do. How they miss out on so many of the moments with the children because they are working and the pressure of not wanting to be a failure. I am so guilty of forgetting how difficult it really is for the man.

I want to stop thinking those jealous thoughts and think ones of thanksgiving for all my man does for me! I want to show him kindness and understanding that his Job is very hard and that i am glad God gave me the role of being a wife and mommy!

VERY Patient

Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong. It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. If you love someone you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7




Patience: Good-natured tolerance of delay or incompetence;Capable of bearing or enduring pain, difficulty, provocation, or annoyance; Understanding.

Starting with patience feels almost like biting more off then i can chew. I am sure no one else struggles with patience. I am also sure i am the only wife that ever taps her foot while "patiently" waiting for her hubby to come and help. Patience is a hard one, yet so crucial to love. I think that is why it is listed first. Patience needs to be a building block for every marriage. There will be so many times when you will need to rely on patience alone to keep you from erupting with anger. I know this more then ever because King los and I function on a different time schedule completely. Especially since he is Colombian. As laid back as they are, they really have no concept of time . After all when his family says we are eating at five that really means more like 8:00. So on Sunday mornings I still have to fight the urge to honk the horn while waiting in the car.(I especially hate being late for church!)

Another issue i think we need to address when dealing with patience with our spouses is the issue of spiritually maturity. I have spoken with many women wishing their husbands would be better leaders of the home and have a better walk with the lord. The definition understanding definitely comes into play here. We need to understand that we can't change our husbands only the holy spirit can. So we need to get on our knees and be praying for them while we wait patiently.
Psalms 37:7 Be still in the presence of the lord and wait patiently for him to act!

When i read the word capable I ask myself am i really capable? I sure want to be. If we aren't patient with our husbands we certainly won't be with our kiddos or anyone else for that matter.
I just love how the Living bible translation says very patient. So today lets not just make do with just being patient but lets be very patient, in all things!

Marriage Monday... What is love?

I am so tired of the medias portrail of Love. As women we get sucked into this idea of romantic love we feel with our hearts. Then when we get married and move in with our prince charming we soon start to feel that love disapearing. Why does he always have to watch sports center right when he gets home from work? Why can't he help with the kids? Why isn't he romantic anymore? On and on it can go. But what happens if we really take time to look at what God tells us love is. Would our marriages change? What about our attitudes? Would we be more content?


Take a Look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. I know we read and hear this passage so often it loses it punch. But, if we were to really dig into this passage and ask ourselves are we really loving our husbands the way we are called to? Would we find out we are failing miserably? ( I know i am!)

I would like to focus the next few days on these verses. So if you are up for the challenge make sure you stop back!


Check out other great marriage monday posts at come have a peace

Open my eyes

I want to see Jesus!.....



The lord has been showing me so much lately. I almost feel overwhelmed.




I am so thankful for all the blessings the lord has given me! I am in awe of his goodness to me.

...extended

Princess Eli with Anut Jess... showing that most of the time she is a little angel!


Satan knows exactly when the perfect time is to stirke. Like when your wonderful baby who has been sleeping through the night for longer then you can remember decides to cry every 2-3 hours. Wakes at six instead of seven or eight. Then refuses to drink out of a bottle. Screams for an hour and has to be fed her milk by spoon. There he is in my face reminding me how tired i feel and how irritated i am. So therefore i am extending the Cheerfulness challenge for the rest of the week. I am just so thankful for God's grace especially in times when i need it so desperatly!

Cheerful

Spring is coming! But, if you are like me you often start to get weary at this part of winter. Feeling like its dragging on forever and longing for those warm wonderful days of summer. I find my emotions boardering on irritated quite often at this time of the year. I end up not handling most things with grace like i should. Things like princess Eli not wanting to nap like she should and my own selfish self not wanting to serve my hubby the way i should. So i have taken this challenge.....

A cheerful heart doeth good like medicine, but a broken spirit makes one sick.
Proverbs 17:22

I am determined to spend my weekend being a cheerful Queen. That means no matter what little things satan throws my way i want to try and tackle them with a smile on my face and a song in my heart!I want to Serve my Lord and Savior with thanksgiving!

Won't you take that challenge too?

Sarah Mae

Last night i spent sometime with good friend miss sarah mae and it was a blast! Not only did i get to have a supper at this celebrity's house there was also quite a show! (insert sarahs laughter here) I told sarah that i am going to post on my site about the fact that we are actually friends and that in fact our husbands even work together and enjoy playing endless hours of video games together. I mean after all she is practically famous atleast the closest to a celebrity i have ever met. Not to mention that Angie from bring the rain and courtney from women living well are coming to her blogging conference. I would just like to say i would much rather meet those women then Julia Roberts! But, ok that may be a little stalkerish so moving on! I started to think about what Sarah's friendship and her encouragment means to me. I just wanted to let everyone know who the real Sarah is... She is super sweet and super encouraging and everything she says on her blog she really believes and trys to live out! So if you haven't checked out her blog yet please head on over there! and Also make sure you check out her Blogging conference Relevant!(Especially if you are as huge of a fan of Angie and Courtney as i am!)


Thanks Sarah for making me feel like I'm not crazy when most do! Your a great friend and even if you weren't a celebrity i would still love you!


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Princess Eli is now eating cereal!

in his image

But there is no use trying to engraft an opposite nature on ones own. What i am, that i must be, except as God changes me into his own image.
Elizabeth Prentiss


I so often find myself thinking if only i could be more like that person. More organized like her, more spirtiual like her, and wiser like her. I get so caught up in others and what they think of me, i forget that we need to be in God's image not in "her" image!